Romantic Love Myth
Romantic
love is a beautiful expression hold a lot of meaning, but do all of us have the
ability of defining love? I guess not, may be because each one of us see the
love from his point of view, and then he define love as he feel it. Some define
it as finding the perfect partner and live with him the good time, and some
define it as marrying the one who can take care of him or her, so it differs
from one to another. But is romantic love is a myth, is romantic love is
something that we cannot find, and we will not find in our life? To know the
answer of this question, we should first know that love is a triangle consists
of three components as Dr. Robert Sternberg, an American psychologist, explains
it in his famous triangular theory of love. He explains in his theory that
romantic love consists of three components which are intimacy, passion, and
commitment (Mike, 2010). As we will see here, I have chosen two example of artifacts to clarify the components of
romantic love myth. We will discuss the myth of romantic love, the components
of romantic love, and how my examples will explain the components of the romantic
love.
The Myth
Is
romantic love is a myth. It depends. Everyone when he seeking for love, he try
to find the perfect partner, the one who care for the other and bears him in
his anger, the one who have the same interests, and the one who can satisfy all
the other partner sexual needs the way he want, but can we find all these
things with the person we have a relationship with? And what if we didn’t find
it all together in this person, should we leave him, and try to seek for
another partner having all the details we want? From this point, we can say
that the perfect romantic love is a myth, because whatever we did, we will
never find it, because also nothing is perfect, and if you want the perfect
love, you should guaranty that you will be perfect too.
The Components of Romantic Love
As Dr. Robert Sternberg explains that love
components are intimacy, passion, and commitment, and that’s means that if you
want the perfect romantic love, you should be able to find all these three
components in your partner, but can you? Or can anyone find the love, the perfect sexual intimacy, and the
commitment all together in your relationship. As he explains that you could
find at least one of these components in your love, or you could find two, but
it is very hard to find all the three, or it is rare, and I think that if you
find it, there is something will happen in the middle to end it.
How Artifacts
Explains the Romantic Love
I have
chosen two artifacts to explain the components of love, and to explain the
perfect romantic love. I have chosen two movies which are “Pretty Woman” and “A
Walk to Remember” and I will discuss how each movie explain the perfect
romantic love fro m it’s point of view.
In the movie “Pretty Woman” Julia Roberts
appears as a prostitute and suddenly she meets with Richard Gear a wealthy
millionaire client, and she find in him her magical love as he also fall in
love with her, and he ignore all about her past and her job, and married he at
the end and they live in happiness ever after. When I watch this movie, I feel
that there is nothing impossible in love, and I feel that it is right, there is
a perfect romantic love, I don’t know that is because they made the movie
really good, or because that it is what I want to believe? In this movie you
will find all the three components together. You will find the passion, the
intimacy, and the commitment, and after you watch it, you can say that anyone
can find the perfect love, and you may try to find it as the movie, and you
will spend years seeking for it, but absolutely you will fail. And that’s
exactly what drives me made in these kinds of romantic movies, which always
have the happy ending.
In “A Walk to Remember”, Mandy Moore is a
girl with terminal leukemia like her
mother, and she fall in love with Shane
West a guy in her school, and they decide to get married to live together the
rest of her days. In this movie you will find the three components of love two
like “Pretty Woman”, but in “A Walk to Remember” it is different, because the
story is more realistic, because it
doesn’t include a happy ending like most of romantic movies.
In “A Walk to Remember” Mandy Moore, which
is Jamie in the movie, will die at the end because of her terminally illness,
so you will observe that their perfect love didn’t complete at the end, which
tells us that even if you find the perfect love, it will have an end.
Most of the movies we watch, made the
love perfect, and when we watch these movies, we start to wish to have this
love in our real life, but when it comes to the real world, you will find it
different, and you will find that is the perfect romantic love is just a myth,
and that is what make the people so attractive to the romantic happy ending
movies, because they cannot find this romance in their life, and they resort to
seek for it in the movie world. About how the myth of the romantic love
affecting me, I try to confines myself that there is no perfect love, because
you will not find a partner in your life who have the same habits and
interests, and who have all the things you need and seek, I am try to be more
realistic to survive from the disease of this myth. About also how my knowledge
of the myth affect the way I will see movies in the future, I think it will
remain the same, because my opinion about the happy ending romance movies is it
is not true, and I think that producers resort to change the way of making
movies such like, and they tend to
know that there is not perfect romantic love.
References
Mike. (2010). The
triangular theory of love: What it means for those who wait. Retrieved on
30 most romantic movies
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